Intelligent parents often find it difficult to admit that their children have learning problems. Poor eyesight can be the reason for reading problems; if an eye test does not help, speak to the school or to a psychologist. You can arrange testing and assessment at one of the networks of Dyslexia Institutes (www.dyslexia-inst.org.uk; tel 01784 222 300).
Many who flounder in strongly academic schools will flourish in other schools, where they are more exposed to practical or creative subjects (music, sports, drama, gardening, mechanics) – or just less pressure.